Real Life: Heart Shattered
Are you prepared for the unexpected? Life is not a success-only journey, and at some point, you may be faced with difficult days that leave you feeling inadequate and out of control. But, you don't have to become a victim. In his new book, "Real Life: Preparing for the 7 Most Challenging Days of Your Life," Dr. Phil teaches you how to prepare for a crisis before it arrives — like the day your heart is shattered by divorce or by the death of a loved one — and how to get back to better days.
Survivng the Loss of Loved One
Dr. Phil asks Sylvia to describe why she has been mad at God.
"I'm just really angry because it seems as though there are so many types of people in the world. You have horrible people who go out and rob people, kill people. They're just out to destroy people's lives. And here, we had a good man who was a good husband and a good father, and every day, he wanted to know what he could do to better his family, and he worked hard at that. I'm just angry because he had to go, not only did he have to die, but the way he died," she explains. "He could have just died peacefully in his sleep â€¦ It just seems like it was too much for a good man to have to go through, and I'm just angry about that."
"It is OK to be angry, and you have to accept that where you are at this point, is where you are. You're doing the best you can," Dr. Phil assures her. "The number one thing you've got to do is give yourself time. There's not a schedule." He also suggests she find strength in others. "This is a time when you want to reach out. This is a time when it's OK to lean on someone else." He also assures Sylvia that if she wants to lie in bed all day and feel sorry for herself, that's OK. "You have to recognize that time is finite here. You want to be there for the girls. It's not that you don't want to hold yourself to some standard, but you also have to be compassionate with yourself," Dr. Phil says.
"I think you are doing an absolutely amazing job of holding your head high, and those girls, they feel love. They feel stable," Dr. Phil says. He tells her that the day will come when she will be able to laugh again, and things will look brighter. "You've got to take care of you, because you're going to be real busy."