Quote From: alteaonIt may sound trivial, but the one thing that I couldn't let go of is the two women who want thier children to marry eachother, " Think of the beautiful babies they'd make!", What on earth would they do if thier children decided not to have children? I've been married for almost two years, been w/ my husband for 6 yrs before that, and now we're getting the baby talk. As if the sole mission of us getting married is to crank out babies right away. I am not against having children, and I do hope to have kids some day, but not now. There are many things I want to do, as well as being able to provide a good home. It's this whole attitude that I am a bad person, or that I'm not fulfilling my duty as a woman because I don't have kids yet.
Don't people see how rude it is to ask complete strangers about this, "Time is running out!..tick tock, tick tock!" it's easy for people to want us to have kids when they will not be responsible for them. I work in the health care industry, and I've been at my job for about six years. Patients know I'm married, and they do not hesitate to state how they feel about kids and when I should have them. I'm not that old. I'm 27.
Babies are not an accessory. There are many instances of teenage pregnancies where I live because girls want babies. They want them because they are cute, because they get attention from being a mother. That's not what it's about. You shouldn't think about if your baby matches your clothes. I would think that people would be happy that I am giving thought to how can I bring a child into the best life possible that my husband and I can provide, rather than popping one out like an assembly line.
Ugghh..thank you for letting me vent.
Until you have children, I guess you will remain hostile about this subject. There are different views on this subject. You have the old fashion views and the liberal views....and the list goes on.
I have to say, people who wait to they are "financially" ready for children usually live to regret it. I have spoke to countless mothers in my town who wish they started their family when they were young. When will you ever be financially ready? you will never know. you could have everything planned to a "t" and then a disaster cuold wipe you clean. I think money is a stupid reason to wait to have children. I am younger than you, been married for 7 years and have 4 children. We have been through financial struggles, we have been through it all. No one bailed us out of anything and it made us stronger in the end. we are making it now. When my children are all in school, i will be in college. I think that is so much more practical than going to college, getting a degree, starting a career, then having children and (1) quitting what i worked so hard for or (2) still focusing on my career, which means i won't be around for my children during the most crucial times in their life.
children thrive on love not money.
don't be offended when people ask when you are having children, isn'tthat what people do, get married and start a family?? you have been w/ this guy for 8 years!!
