I agree with you totally. Why oh why does it always fall on the woman to take care of the birth control? What is wrong with the stupid horndog men going out and actually footing the $10.00 bill for a box of condoms? In case these "men" aren't aware of this, birth control is NOT 100% effective, no matter what pill you take, so trusting in it alone to stop pregnancy is simply foolish. And let's not forget the scary statistics on sexually transmitted diseases these days. You should be wrapping it up to protect your life, not just your "hobbies and interests" should you be tied down with a wife and child you didn't want.
I love all the hypocrites coming on this board yelling, "Why did you have sex with someone you don't want to marry?" Yeah, like you didn't. I had sex with the guy I was engaged to after we got engaged. He was my first, and it was not by choice. It did not result in a pregnancy, but it should have made me wise up as to why this guy was not the guy for me. In other words, I woke up with the jerk on top of me. I was staying at his house because my power was out, and he took his chance. It never even occurred to me that the buttwipe had raped me, because we were engaged and we were going to do it eventually anyway. Stupid me, I LOVED him, so I married him and spent the next five years of my life trying desperately to get out of it. I wound up with two daughter I love dearly and wouldn't trade for the world. I also ended up homeless with those two daughters at the end of the marriage with not a penny to my name. I also ended up with a loser for an ex who barely even sees his kids, who gave HIS visitation privileges over to his dad. Loser. Lucky for me I ended up with a gem of a second husband who loves me and who wanted to wait for our wedding night for religious reasons. It was a beautiful honeymoon and it has been a great marriage. I wouldn' t trade it for the world, but that's just my personal experience.
If I had my druthers, I'd tell everyone who reads these posts NOT to sleep with a guy until you are married, but when you are in that situation, it is hard to remember that sex before marriage is a BAD idea. I would simply ask that EACH partner bring their own protection to the act of intercourse. Remember, it's not just pregnancy you should be trying to avoid! If you don't take it upon yourself to protect your own interests, you are just as guilty as the woman who tricked you. That means you, DEREK!
