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funny they always focus on deception before marriage. It can also happen when you are married 

Before we got married we discussed we wanted children but agreed to try and wait a few years in order to settle a bit (house, career etc). 

However as easy or commonplace it seems to most people after 6 years of marriage - when we bought our house and wanted to have a child - we seemed to have problems getting pregnant. My wife first blamed me for a year or two not being fertile and when we finally decided on treatment my wife was pumped with hormones and still nothing happened. Finally and luckily, after we changed doctors about three times and found a university hospital, they discovered my wife's tubes were blocked with some kind of growth. They removed it and by IFV we got a healthy and goodlooking son the first time round. 

The doctor however told us that if we wanted more children we would have to come back to do IVF again because the growth in my wife's woom might become bigger again. 

So after about 1,5 year after our first born my wife told me is was safe without a condom as she was told she could not conceive naturally. 

Great was our surprise - and at first my anger - when after examination we were told she was pregnant again, this time naturally.... 

So it seems on the whole she never needed treatment or IFV, it was just a matter of stress from our environment, work, family etc...... 

As a result my wife is now afraid to sleep with me again as we don't want to become pregnant a third time... (we don't like any surgical intervention to prevent this from happening) and of course she has put on weight and does no longer feel sexy because of the two pregnancies being a bit close together.... 

Again where at first I was blamed for not making her pregnant, now I am blamed for making her pregnant.... But a man has to learn not to listen to a woman (they are always right) but try to not to talk but to act (as Dr Phil said in one of his shows : men are judged by there actions) 

Luckily for her I still love her and my two sons, but I know they were times were other men probably just would have bailed out and ran away 

So to all those people out there you can also be deceived by doctors instead of your partner 

funny they always focus on deception before marriage. It can also happen when you are married 

Before we got married we discussed we wanted children but agreed to try and wait a few years in order to settle a bit (house, career etc). 

However as easy or commonplace it seems to most people after 6 years of marriage - when we bought our house and wanted to have a child - we seemed to have problems getting pregnant. My wife first blamed me for a year or two not being fertile and when we finally decided on treatment my wife was pumped with hormones and still nothing happened. Finally and luckily, after we changed doctors about three times and found a university hospital, they discovered my wife's tubes were blocked with some kind of growth. They removed it and by IFV we got a healthy and goodlooking son the first time round. 

The doctor however told us that if we wanted more children we would have to come back to do IVF again because the growth in my wife's woom might become bigger again. 

So after about 1,5 year after our first born my wife told me is was safe without a condom as she was told she could not conceive naturally. 

Great was our surprise - and at first my anger - when after examination we were told she was pregnant again, this time naturally.... 

So it seems on the whole she never needed treatment or IFV, it was just a matter of stress from our environment, work, family etc...... 

As a result my wife is now afraid to sleep with me again as we don't want to become pregnant a third time... (we don't like any surgical intervention to prevent this from happening) and of course she has put on weight and does no longer feel sexy because of the two pregnancies being a bit close together.... 

Again where at first I was blamed for not making her pregnant, now I am blamed for making her pregnant.... But a man has to learn not to listen to a woman (they are always right) but try to not to talk but to act (as Dr Phil said in one of his shows : men are judged by there actions) 

Luckily for her I still love her and my two sons, but I know they were times were other men probably just would have bailed out and ran away 

So to all those people out there you can also be deceived by doctors instead of your partner